Why do people get married?

I think marriage is totally overrated especially the part of when you should be settling down at a certain age. Society and the media play a huge role when involves influencing what we perceive as the right ingredient for getting married.

NEWS –FLASH... Marriage is a personal decision and when you do decide to get married, be it at the age of 18 or 50, it’s your decision and people shouldn’t judge you upon your age.

I do believe that when you do decide to tie the knot, not to sell yourself lesser as a person thereby getting married because you and your partner are having a baby or because according to your religion and beliefs, you have to get married or else...

We all have different perceptions and expectations of what we define as a good marriage; just make sure you and your partner are on the same page when this happens.
Life is about meeting new people, falling in love, falling out of love, figuring out where you fit into the whole equation, and getting married should be the last factor that ties you down, and not allowing yourself to live your life to the fullest. This might work for many people, but from observing couples in and around my social setting, I've realised people will settle down too quickly.

I can manifest and have encompassed partners who got married not because love, but out of obligation for their new born child, or just to get out of the house, but little did they know that their decisions would catch up with them eventually, hence these partners are going through a rough patches now, because they were not ready as individuals to be with each other. Yes, you can love someone, but sometimes it takes more than just love to pull a couple through its difficult times.

In my opinion, marriage should be an easy process, not difficult or hard to adjust to, or else you aren’t ready to settle down. I would advise people to get to know themselves firstly, and from their built on a relationship and then a marriage. Try to ensure that the freedom and space you allowed each other before you got married is still there, or else that could end up being the one factor that will tear you two apart. In most cases that have been observed, people think it should just be the two of them.

Yes, most of your time should be just the two of you, but remember that every being is different and because we are different, we have different needs which don’t always mesh with your needs, hence why we need to give one another space, space in which to regroup and stay tuned and true to yourself.

Hope I could inspire you.

Until Next Time... Chow Bela :)